Many years ago, Rangers in Africa’s Kruger National Park had the challenge of disbursing elephants to other National Parks because of their inability to support the growing elephant population. The logistical hurdles of transporting the heavier male elephants caused the park to prioritize the transfer of the smaller juvenile and female elephants without any adult males. The relocation appeared to be a success.
A short while later at one of the new elephant parks white rhinos were turning up dead. The Rangers were puzzled as to the cause. They set up cameras to observe and learn. Much to their surprise, bands of young juvenile male elephants were the cause, gorging the rhinos with their tusks. This behavior is unheard of in elephants. Why the shift?
After some discussion, the Rangers thought the lack of adult male elephants may be the cause of the unruly juvenile elephant behavior. To test the theory they brought in male elephants to the park. Within weeks the deaths stopped. Instead of killing, the juvenile males started following around the adult males while mimicking their more appropriate, civilized behavior (see “Of Elephants and Men” in Fatherhood Today magazine for expanded version of story).
This pattern of absent adult males in society is causing similar effects. Many studies have been done to observe and track the behavior of young juveniles who lack a mature male influence. The results are shockingly similar. It appears to be more than elephant nature or human nature…it is just nature. Strong male role models reign in and steady youth in a manner that is unique and different than women.
What does this mean to you? If you are a man, then step up and be there for children. By nature, you are uniquely qualified to guide in ways that only you, as the father, can provide. If you do not have children look for opportunities to be a role model to young men who may not have one. Your impact can be tremendous and life changing. To all men, reach beyond your own selfish interests and prioritize the rearing of children in some form or fashion. It is the greatest work we can be a part of and greatly contributes to the well being of society.
If you are a woman, let your man fulfill his role as Father in the home. Divorced families need this structure just as much, if not more. Do what you can to have the father be as involved as he is willing to be. If you do not have a father in the household at the present time, then look for a positive male role model through other avenues such as church, sports, and other organizations.
This blog is about finding deeper meaning, joy, and purpose in life through simple insights and actions. Fatherhood is simple and deciding to be a good father is just as simple. Simple does not always mean convenient and easy. Fatherhood requires effort and sacrifice mixed with love and discipline. The blessings of such a decision are tremendous and grow with each year. We fathers were just celebrated this past Sunday. Let’s make this coming year better than the prior as we give more of who we are to those we love most.
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